Do you have that one person in your workplace who instigates disagreements? Almost all jobs have one. While it seems ridiculous to allow this to affect your mindset, personal morale becomes subdued by disrespect. Even when you put forth positive displays of emotion, inside your frustrated. If irritating insults and unsolicited opinions occur frequently, you may become overactive. Often times tension occurs with minimal provocation. If you can understand the mindset of those who incite conflict, you have an opportunity to adjust your responses.
Those directing the psychological manipulation are doing so for several reasons
Control Freak: They seek control over circumstances, outcomes, and the quality of work the team produces. Although it may appear negative to other workers, this is perceived as good leadership skills by the boss. Most of the time, the boss fails to see ongoing tension between employees.
Big Ego/Narcissistic: Having a big ego or a touch of narcissism creates arguments because the individual is focused on their thoughts, desires, and feelings only. Narcissism is often linked to poor parenting, discipline, and never being told no. There is no regard for defaming others to achieve high levels of recognition or status. They can only see the world from their perspective and have no sympathy for others. Additional signs include, being aggravated when exertions of power fall on deaf ears.
Job Resentment: There is a deep hatred for the job itself. This person may be suffering from severe anger issues, depression, or grief which spills over from the home front to the work environment. Most likely if this person is disrespectful and judgmental at work, then it’s probably due to outside negative circumstances.
Low-self esteem and insecurity: The truth may be that they are uneducated and not skilled at their job. As a result of feeling inferior, they point out flaws in others just to look better in comparison. But as a peer, you need to realize that if you do react to those obvious displays of criticism; you are no better than they are.